So for about a month now, i have been without a nanny/maid. It has been just us- the kids, hubby and I. While i was on leave the first few days...oh i think i have actually been without a nanny for more than one month! ....it was not so bad as I took the opportunity to bond with the girls. We hardly have such real time for mummy/daughter so yes, It felt like a worthy sacrifice.
Then time to go back to work and here i am still with no one to assist. *sigh*. I have to set out and leave for work 5.30am and will not be back till around 7pm (on days when there is no traffic o). Hubby helps to get them ready and does school runs but his work entails a bit of travelling so there are days he will not be around for this. I fear a day like this is coming soon. When they are back from school, they have to be at my neighbour's. Oh, Cindy has been amazing! Yes, we have been neighbours since 2011, we became friends but drifted apart again in the last three years. Now, needing her support I cannot undermine the absoluteness of what she is doing. She not only shelters them till i get back, she also do a bit of academic work with them. Em, i am still thinking of the best way to show my gratitude.
Ok, what is this really about? I have been a stay-at mom once before and i have compared with being a working mom, it is so much harder being the former. The work is indescribable especially when you have no maid. Now having to combine being a working mom and no maid is something i have never had to do for such a long time especially with two kids (9yrs and 7yrs). I am in the living room, they are with me. I try to escape to hide and get a me-time in the room, they are right there in the room or hanging by my window giving me the 'you are ignoring us' look. PHCN is not helping as maybe they could have occupied themselves with TV whenever i needed to 'getaway'.
They are almost always having something to report the other for. And the smart 9yr old asks, 'mummy did you beg God to give you children?' i said yes, without realising the trap question. And she goes, 'so why do you complain that we disturb you?' I gritted my teeth (by the way, i just paused to yell at them. lol, i try not to but its hard when they are making so much noise. ok i need to chill) and just did not respond.
I must admit though, this has made my girls a bit more independent. My 9yr old now sweeps and once mopped the floor. Oh, she does dishes too, takes out the trash and washes under wears and socks. My 7yr (she is almost 7), wipes dusts from furniture. That one is quite naughty so well, we still have to just push her a bit to do little chores. while her sister is filling the water reservoirs in the bathrooms , she is just going up and down trying to make more trouble. One small spank is ok, she will cry and sleep and we will have some peace. lol. Suddenly, cooking is not fun. I spent hours standing in the kitchen yesterday after making an attempt to clean my room.
I am hoping somehow i am able to get a nanny by the end of this new week. I write this as i am also looking round at my untidy living room. I have to go now.
-Parenting has no manual.
